In today's Ask Amy column, Amy Dickinson responds to someone who is tired of sending and receiving gifts with long-distance friends.
I moved away years ago, but we have kept the tradition of sending Christmas and birthday gifts to each other.Receiving gifts seems to fluster them. They are not reciprocating.I have explained to my friends that we do not need to do this anymore, but they insist that we do.
Sometimes I receive a gift really late – months after the celebration – and the gift is usually something they found in their home.My husband thinks I should continue to send them gifts, but I think I am causing more harm than good.It is obvious that receiving these material gifts from you is causing these elders a lot of stress – you say as much in your question.
So, even though receiving gifts from you “flusters” these friends, and even though they clearly feel pressured to reciprocate, on you go … shopping and sending and even following up to make sure they’ve received your gift.If your husband believes that it is necessary to send these gifts, then I suggest that you carry on with cards and phone calls, and if he wants to shop for and send gifts – he should go ahead and do whatever he wants.or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O.
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