This new mom wants her mother-in-law to end the constant harping on how she cares for her baby.
: I am working on a writing project while being a stay-at-home mom to a 1-year-old. My husband and I have decided not to put our baby in day care yet. It has been exhausting trying to care for him and get work done.
We have clashed from the very beginning. She wanted to put blankets and pillows in the baby’s crib when he was a newborn. But I know that is against recommendations from the American Academy of Pediatrics. She hates that the baby sleeps alone in his room and stands vigil outside his door in case he cries, which stresses me out. And she hates baby-led weaning. She prefers to put the baby on her hip and spoon-feed him, or to give him little bites from her hand.
I spent a week with her recently and it was really tough with the constant criticism and blatant ignoring of our parenting choices. I know she does it out of love for my baby, but to be honest, these clashes are making me quietly resent her. How do I salvage this relationship? Is it even fair to ask her to abide by my parenting rules when she is so generous about helping out?A: Talk to your husband. You need to understand where he is in all this and his own experiences with his mom.
Right now, conversations with her are reactive and happen in the moment. Moving ahead, you and your husband should preface her visits with some reminders of your expectations and rules. This may sound like, “We cannot wait for you to come visit. We are making progress with the baby’s sleep routine. We want you to be part of that, which means letting him sleep in his room alone and not going in there even if he cries.
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