Plus: I wake up smelling like a dog.
After his death, I sold everything and moved to another state to be with our daughter. My living in her house is a financial advantage for her as I help with the rent, utilities and groceries. I do have my own private space there.
Her father is now ailing, and she wants to move him to a nursing home near us, which is fine with me. However, she wants to have him over for special-occasion dinners. I am extremely uncomfortable in his presence. I have told her I would make plans to be out of the house at those times.I don’t want to ruin holidays for her and my granddaughter by not being there, but I also don’t want to be in the company of the man who made my life miserable for all those years. Please help.
Tell her again that when you finally found the strength to leave your abuser, you promised yourself you would never have to be in his presence again and you are keeping that promise. Tell her nicely that you hope they will have a happy whatever-the-occasion-is, and you will arrange to celebrate it with her and your grandchild on a different date.I have told him time and time again, to no avail. We have two small dogs that he insists sleep in our bed every night.
Lack of restorative sleep can cause any number of health problems as well as household and car accidents. Because he can’t bring himself to put the dogs where they belong, treat yourself to a solid night’s sleep in the guest room, and do not allow yourself to be intimidated. P.S. Those dogs need to be bathed more often. Now that your husband is retired, he should see that it gets done.
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