Daily News | Dear Abby | Long marriage in jeopardy after man’s lies revealed
What he has been lying about greatly upsets me, but knowing he has lied about these things makes it worse than finding out the truth at the time things happened.
The lies are about his relationships with his female “friends.” He has always had a wandering eye. He has lied so many times that I’m wondering what else he has lied about that I don’t know about. I find out because he tells on himself without realizing what he has said. I am now questioning our whole life together. We have been together 31 years, and I’m thinking our entire marriage has been built on his lies. When I confront him about it, he says he “never said it,” but he did. How do I live with a lying spouse?Solid marriages are built on trust. Unfortunately, yours is lacking in that department. Your first task is to determine whether you WANT to remain married to a lying husband, who attempts to gaslight you by denying he said something you clearly heard.
Emily now has some mental issues, and Louanne, who does have a relationship with her, helps her almost to the extreme. She’s now talking about relocating Emily from South Carolina to New Jersey, and wants my help arranging it. Until two weeks ago, Emily lived on her own as she had for many years. She’s had some ups and downs, but Louanne is treating this as though Emily is no longer able to care for herself.
I’m having a hard time feeling compassion for Emily, and Louanne is upset with me because I don’t want to help. It’s destroying our relationship. I tried to explain my feelings to her, but she keeps reminding me that this is about “family,” so I need to put my feelings aside. I feel torn and alone. Any advice?It might help to view this from a different perspective. Although you are distant from Emily, who you acknowledge has mental problems, you are close to Louanne.
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