Daily News | Dear Abby | Sisters of abuse survivors demand an apology
I survived 17 years of abuse. I’m slowly healing and now in a healthy relationship I enjoy. My ex did what most abusers do in these situations: He isolated me from my family. He would force me to say mean things to my sisters and parents to keep them away and make them hate me.
Now that I’m out of that situation, I want a relationship with them again. Sadly, my sisters say I must apologize for my behavior , which I’m not comfortable doing. I did apologize once, but it wasn’t good enough for them, since I stated that I was sorry HE MADE ME do those things. What should I do?I’m not sure why your sisters are insisting you apologize again, but if I were you, I would do it to try to smooth things over.
Part of me feels it’s weird to have pictures of a deceased pet on display and that it may not be healthy. Yet, I also feel it’s fine, as long as it isn’t a shrine to him. Sometimes I stop and look at Rover’s pictures and smile; other times, I feel an ache in my stomach and tear up. What is your take on this?My “take” is that although you have moved on to a great degree, you are still grieving. Rover is part of your history. If photos of him bring you pleasure, continue to display them.
I have given other people money and made clear, “I won’t ask what you do with it nor ever mention it again. I just want you to enjoy it.” Do you have advice on whether I should do this? And, if so, how? I don’t want to damage our friendship.You are very generous. This is a question that should be discussed with your attorney or accountant. Of course, when you send the funds, there should be a letter explaining your intentions. This “transfer of assets” is sometimes done in families.
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