I’m sick of always having to make the first move – and usually being turned down. After four years like this, should we get professional help?
sex. We recently married and during our. I’m at the end of my tether with frustration and sadness that she doesn’t seem to want to sleep with me. I’ve tried to talk to her about what’s going on and she is generally dismissive,the fact that I was rejected numerous times during a week when we were both relaxed,low-sex marriage.but it’s really starting to affect the way I feel about myself.
A good sex therapist could certainly help. An imbalance of sexual interest between partners can be a source of enormous frustration for both. It can create resentment, anger and even lead to a break-up. With help, you could both gain clarity about each other’s needs, reach an understanding, learn to communicate better – and have the best chance of resolving the situation.
Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders. If you would like advice from Pamela on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to