Try not to dwell on what you feel is missing, but instead focus on the positive relationships and values you can nurture with your sons• Every week Annalisa Barbieri addresses a family-related problem sent in by a reader
Try not to dwell on what you feel is missing, but instead focus on the positive relationships and values you can nurture with your sonsI gave birth to my second son several months ago. In my first pregnancy I had no preference and was excited to find out I was expecting a boy, especially as my partner really wanted a son. Some of my closest friends also had boys.When I learned we were expecting another boy, I was disappointed and began feeling less connected with and happy about the pregnancy.
I wonder if there’s any point telling you that a lot of mothers and daughters don’t get on, but a lot of sons and mothers do. But really all of this comes later after you’ve worked through your own feelings of loss. In her experience Dr McMillan, who has seen many similar cases, says that “this is often about connection; perhaps wanting to carry on elements of an important relationship or a hope to repair the past by creating different, preferred experiences.
Dr McMillan also told me about ambiguous loss when we mourn something we never had: “Spending time thinking about a daughter means she has become psychologically present and so the not having, the absence of her and the relationship, is a loss which is not easily recognised by others.”
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