The one thing least likely to improve your sex life, or your relationship, is panicking that you’re not getting it right
How experimental is your sex life? Have you got a sex routine down which was established in month three of dating, which you just repeat again and again and again? Or do you still delight in turning each other on in new ways?
How much do you enjoy sex? Does it ever feel like a chore? How connected do you feel during it? How do you feel about your body when you’re together? How often do you laugh during sex? All of these are way, way better questions . And anyway, there’s a natural fluctuation for most couples of how often they have sex in any given month, driven by the hormonal landscape of a woman’s body. Generally speaking, we want sex a lot more around ovulation and a lot less towards the end of the luteal period.