After nearly two years apart they should be looking forward to a Christmas with his family — but instead the holiday is filling her with dread.
This week, our resident sexologist Isiah McKimmie hears from a woman who is dreading spending time with her partner’s family over the holidays.I love my partner. But I don’t love his family. I’m dreading spending time with them over the holidays. They’re always making little comments that my partner doesn’t notice. I feel like I’ll never be good enough for their son and will never be a part of their family.
It’s painful when our partner won’t listen or take our concerns seriously. I hope that he’s able to understand you a little better when you share like this. She should be excited about her Christmas plans, but instead, she can't help but dread what is coming. Picture: Kyle Broad/UnsplashAs you’re aware, spending some with them is important. Unless they really cross a line, making an effort to get along with them, will make everyone’s life easier.
Compromise might look like making agreements about the time you spend with his family and the time you have just to yourself.‘I know that spending time with your family is important and I really want to support you in that. It’s also important to me to have some time where I feel relaxed. If we spend X days with your family, can we make sure we also have X days to ourselves to rest?
Depending on where you live, you might also be able to compromise on him having days with his family without you there.Keep in mind that your partner has chosen you to be with. Whether his family thinks you’re a good match or ‘good enough’ for their son, he does. I hope reminding yourself of that can bring you some comfort and alleviate your anxiety around them.. If you have a question for Isiah, email [email protected].
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